The most common statement I hear from people, both on social media and in the real world, is “I’m so confused, I don’t know what or who to believe anymore.” Considering the level of intentional deception, manipulation tactics, and sensationalized stories floating around, that’s understandable. What is more significant is that because people have lost the ability to trust in others, it has created self-doubt in their ability to trust themselves to discern, which is perpetuating the confusion. So how do you slice through it all, separate it in your mind, and feel a sense of clarity without the mumbo jumbo of stories adding to all of this confusion?
For many, by realizing that you trusted others who ultimately betrayed you, it created a sense of self-doubt, reflection, and in some cases, guilt over decisions made. That in turn created a feeling of distrust in everyone, which is unhealthy. If you can’t trust in others and you can’t trust in yourself, that leaves quite a void. Rebuilding that trust in yourself and removing the self-doubt is the very thing that allows you to discern what and who to trust. Choosing to bypass that step, creates the desire to find truth anywhere you can outside of yourself, even if it means believing in a false story or false person because it’s the story that would make you the happiest. That creates an entire breakdown of the ability to discern and becomes a vicious circle. But the reality is, you are really just yearning for truth – your truth – to return to you. Resolve that, and figure out what truth is for you, and you will find freedom.
Betrayal can be difficult to work through, but it’s an important step, so as to release the attachment to those emotions, and see the true beauty and strength within yourself. You were taken advantage of, manipulated, made vulnerable, and totally deceived. It is perfectly understandable that you would feel angered, hurt, and betrayed, but reconciling it all is what’s necessary to bring everything into focus, with clarity. It’s equivalent to being taken out at the knees and then told to run a marathon. Heal what needs to be healed.
Think of your brain as a filing cabinet. Keep it organized and clear of clutter, and you will begin to feel the confusion melting away. But how? Learn to compartmentalize information as it comes at you, before loading it up into your filing cabinet, and be sure to have a trash bin nearby. Discernment is the key, and with practice, it will become an automated process of compartmentalizing as time goes on. Creating a method for how best to utilize your time and energy is crucial so you don’t burn out. Everyone is not only trying to digest an incredible amount of information coming at them but are also feeling heightened levels of stress because of the in-home quarantine due to the coronavirus. Grounding yourself, maintaining balance, and taking in information in bite size pieces is so important right now. So, what do these compartments look like?
When information comes at you, train yourself to process it in a way that you can effectively discern it.
- Do I see points of evidence, and is it legitimate evidence?
- Is there enough evidence to lock it up, or is it just enough to be plausible?
- Is this a nice story, but doesn’t provide any proof, making it a piece of fiction?
- Are my emotions being triggered and tactics being used?
Once discernment becomes second nature and you have removed self-doubt, at all times, listen your gut, and use that intuition. As time goes on, it will become faster and faster to discern information and fiction will sail right into the trash, removing clutter and confusion.
The Fact Compartment
When absorbing information, the first thing to look for is the evidence. What constitutes as evidence?
• Source links that provide proof
• Documentation to back it up
• Statements, confessions, and quotes directly from the source in question
• Unaltered video footage
• Court documents
• Criminal records and convictions
• Historical data
• Actual data provided by the source of who the story is about
• Maps, addresses, and connecting locations
• Property records
• Tax documents
• The money – how it is spent and how it connects to everyone in the story
• Business relationships and friendships with deep ties